It makes a difference when you are going through something, in any capacity, to know that somebody understands what you are going through, somebody that can feel what you feel.
People sometimes can see you in a state of mind and they can sympathize with you but can’t do a thing to help you. It makes a difference to have somebody who really knows what you feel, what you think and can offer a consoling word to you. We all wish that we had somebody that really understood us — somebody who could say to us “I understand what you feel.”
The reason why people visit psychiatrists is because they get a chance to unload, to share some of their innermost feelings to someone who will listen to them and try to understand what they are dealing with. Our emotions are a funny thing. Everybody doesn’t understand our emotions — and as a pastor, I know they can be hard to deal with.
When you think that you have helped an individual, or when you try to help an individual, they can change emotionally in a whole different direction. We can’t tell what’s going on in the inside of a person, so even when you try to sympathize with somebody sometimes you can’t always help them! Have you ever tried to help somebody by giving them an encouraging word and they look at you and say “I appreciate what you are trying to do but you just don’t understand!”
Even when you try to do the very best that you can, sometimes you just can’t feel what another person feels! People will be quick to say “I know what you are going through” when you are having marital problems, when you have lost your job or have a serious disease. They will look at you when you have lost a loved one and say “I know what you are going through” when they have not even experienced what you are going through! They mean well but they don’t know what you are going through!
We can’t go through anything that Jesus has not been through. He is better than a psychiatrist. He is better than a politician. He is better than a doctor, better than a church, better than a friend.
Whatever you are feeling right now, whatever you are dealing with right now, just know that when you pray, “He knows all about it (Hebrews 4:15)!” Isn’t that good news? and not only does he know but he is able to strengthen, help, gird, uphold, secure, and empower you! “Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace; that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in the time of need (Hebrews 4:16).”
I don’t care how you slice it. I don’t care where you are right now, tell him all about it. He’s been there and he knows all about it.