Today I want to talk about “personality hurts.” One of the greatest hurts that we can experience is when we have been hurt by a friend. A friend is “a close acquaintance,” somebody with whom you bond with and you love only less than somebody who is a blood brother or sister — and it’s a bad hurt when a friend, somebody who we are close to hurt us or betrays us. Has anybody been there? That kind of hurt can leave us wounded, distraught, and perplexed, and from that hurt it’s hard to recover.
Then there’s a hurt that comes from a broken relationship between a man and a woman who were in love with each other. Many hearts have bled and appetites lost as a result of a split. All of us can say amen to that. That’s a hurt. It doesn’t feel good at all. It’s hard to sleep at night. Your tongue swells up in your mouth and “it’s hard to get beyond the hurt.”
But perhaps there is a greater hurt than that and that is when a family member hurt us. Family can break your heart. There should be a cohesiveness among family members because of the fact that the same blood is running through their veins. Family are supposed to be close; they are supposed to have a bond; it’s a unit that God himself put together (Genesis 2:22-24). It’s a tragedy when family allows something like a $5 loan to put a wedge between them to where they are not speaking to one another and build up walls against each other.
Words, actions and lies have scarred and split up family members, some to the extent where they never get back together and they die like that. Sad to say, even in Christian families one family member can hurt another family member, or they have a disagreement and pride sets in, neither one wants to be man or woman enough to say “I was wrong, I’m sorry, let’s sit down and talk this thing out.” They stop communicating, there’s a breakdown in their relationship and death sometimes take one or the other and fences are left unmended, loose ends are left untied, and they both go into eternity mad with each other because of hurt. Somebody ought to have enough love in their heart to say “this is not right, this is not the way this is supposed to be. Let’s get this thing right, so that God can get the glory.”
Rev. George T. Ellis is pastor of Union Grove Missionary Baptist Church.