Tonia Stephenson Chamber Chat
October 22, 2013
Do you ever stop and think about the blessings in your life? Have you ever tried writing them all down? If so, were you able to remember them all or did you run out of time before finishing — or did your hand get tired before you were done?
This is something I think about often. I had a period of time in my life when I was going through some things and I would wake up miserable and spend the better part of my day the same way. For me, this was hard, because I have led a life full of blessings and although I’ve lived through my troubles — we all have them — I’ve always been one to see the good through the bad. I’m usually the one picking up people and trying to make people happy around me, even though I might feel like I’m falling apart inside. But there was this period of time when I still put on my happy face, but no longer could I fool the people closest to me. And the worst part was I couldn’t figure out how to get over it.
During this period of time, one especially bad day, I had had enough of my attitude. I really didn’t even like being in the same room with myself, but I found that I was letting the talk in my head be negative. So, I stopped everything I was doing that day and began to write down my blessings. After writing for quite some time, I got interrupted or I think I would still be writing today.
This has been a few years ago, but I still have the list and I like to review it every so often. Someday, I should start adding to it again, because moving to Laurinburg has given me more things and people to include. On that day, thinking about my list, seeing in writing of all the beautiful things/people in my life, I wondered why I had a “woe is me” attitude. I continued to have the issues in my life that made me wake up miserable, but I found myself peeking at my list and somehow feeling a little better about things. Eventually, I worked my way through the tough times. We all have troubles in our lives that rear their ugly heads, but if we concentrate on the positive things, maybe the difficult times won’t seem so bad.
I encourage you to do this exercise if you have not before. I hope you will include things that are associated with our city and our county. As a community, we have reasons for us to have the “woe is me” attitude, but we have thousands more reasons to have a “how blessed I am” attitude.
“When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile.” — Author unknown
Tonia Stephenson is the president of the Laurinburg/Scotland County Area Chamber of Commerce.